I have spoken with over 1000 people who were sexually abused as children. I have learned a lot from this and felt that I owed it to those who shared their most intimate secrets with me to try to help others. To try to rape-proof today’s children and to try to help those boys and girls who have been sexually abused to take steps along their healing journey – to become the people they might have been without the sexual abuse.
Depending upon your position at the moment – whether you are a parent, a grandparent, a teacher, Doctor, educator, lawyer or coach, there is something for you and those you can help in Unforgivable Sins.
Those of you who go on to read excerpts here should be aware that, of necessity, the stories of abuse are told in graphic detail. Most media “fuzzifies” stories of sexual abuse, relying a great deal on the word “molested”
Few of us know what molested means. One of the things I seek is a purification of the language surrounding sexual abuse. Because the confusion generated by euphemisms now helps only pedophiles.
Knowledge is power. I try to share my knowledge in the hope that if, through this writing, one child can be saved from being raped, some good has been done.
I encourage you to explore these pages, but to do so carefully. Some of the scenes are saddening in the extreme. The comfort I can give you is that you will only be reading about these acts, where children have
been forced to endure them.
I welcome your feedback and constructive suggestions.
We are all in this together.
The complete title of the book is UNFORGIVABLE SINS – HOW TO STOP THE MEN AND WOMEN WHO RAPE OUR GIRLS AND BOYS
The titles of the Chapters give a clue – but only a clue – about the contents of the book. They are:
EVERYONE INTO THE POOL!
WHO ARE THE PEDOPHILES?
THE CATHOLIC CHURCH – PART ONE
MEN TEACHERS – WOMEN TEACHERS – WOMEN RAPISTS?
NICE PEOPLE WHO ADOPT SMALL CHIDREN
DOCTORS AND BOY SCOUT LEADERS AND OTHER POWER PEOPLE
UNCLE BOBBY THE BACHELOR
THE WICKED STEPFATHER
THE GOOD PRIEST
I KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT NUNS
HOW DO I FIND OUT IF MY CHILD HAS BEEN SEXUALLY ASSAULTED?
PANTS ON FIRE
A CURIOUS TIME FOR PEDOPHILES
THE EFFECTS OF SEXUAL ABUSE ON ADULT AND CHILD
OMFG!! IT’S THE INTERNET!
GETTING A GOOD LAWYER
BACK TO PROPINQUITY
THE CATHOLICS. PART TWO
CATHOLICS AND HOMOSEXUALITY
WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER
THE BIBLE SAYS THERE IS ONLY ONE UNFORGIVABLE SIN
The major purpose of the book is to help rape-proof children to help prevent sexual abuse from today forward. All mothers and fathers should be aware of the advice on how to keep their children safe from pedophiles.
A secondary, but important reason that this book has been written is to help those who have been sexually abused when they were children take steps along the road to their own recovery. This is mostly new information, not to be found in any other place. It is derived from knowledge that the author has amassed from dealing with survivors of sexual abuse who have been successful in banishing its hold over them. The author tells their stories in the hope that others will learn from what has worked for them.
The pitfalls of the Internest are discussed in detail, and parents are alerted to different methods by which they can keep their children safe from the pedophiles who lurk there. It is estimated that one in five children is sexually solicited on the Internet each year. Your child should know what to do when this happens.
Along the way, some segments of society come into focus as being unhelpful in waging war against sexual abuse. Doctors, School Boards and the Roman Catholic Church are among those whose conduct is found wanting, who are urged to do better to safeguard our kids.
The book is frank, open and honest. The details of sexual abuse are, of necessity, graphic. They are told in a way no survivor of sexual abuse would be likely to explain in his or her own writing, because the facts of the abuse are so painful, even sixty or more years after the event.
This book is a must read for parents of young children, law enforcement officials, doctors, therapists, teachers and even pedophiles, who will learn here that the rules have changed for them and it is a now a more dangerous time to be a pedophile than at any time in history.
While there are stark stories told of man’s and woman’s inhumanity to children here, there is also a message of hope that individuals and society can help eliminate the scourge of childhood sexual abuse, and the knowledge of how to do so is contained within these pages.
This is a book of hope and a call to arms. It has the power to re-shape a generation for the better.
Unforgivable Sins, once read, will never be forgotten. It is written from the best place in the heart of the author and directed to the best place in the hearts of us all – the place where children are kept safe and whole and secure. The place where we wish all of our children to grow and to thrive.